First Published: April 3, 2010
There are few things that can rob you of joy, power, vision and focus as much as being unforgiving. As human beings, when we are wronged, there is a tendency to keep a grudge, sometimes indefinitely. While it’s not an easy task, it is necessary we forgive for our own good.
When we fail to forgive, we are like Jailers, locking up our offenders in our prisons of Bitterness. If you are familiar with Asha’s music (jailer), a jailer is automatically a Prisoner too. You will be doing yourself a favor by forgiving the hurt you have experienced because when you fail to forgive, you give your offender more power to hurt you even in their absence, thus robbing your life of joy, power, vision and vitality.
Late Nelson Mandela, one of the most admired persons on earth today, went from Prison to the Presidential Palace just like Joseph in the Bible who became the Prime Minister of Egypt. Mandela used the power of forgiveness to set himself and his jailers free, leading to the healing of his country South Africa that had suffered severely from the bitter injustice of Apartheid. After 27 years in Robben Island, he didn’t come out of jail with great vindictiveness to carry out a vendetta against his former jailers; rather he advocated Peace and National unity. No wonder he is a living legend today. Joseph likewise forgave his Brothers who sold him into slavery. If only future African Leaders like us can learn to forgive and tolerate this way, there could be less wars, tribal clashes and religious squabbling. Africa would focus more on sustainable development, rather than shedding blood over every minor issue.
Research in Medical Science is proving that there is a link between Bitterness, Unforgiveness and several ailments like Hypertension, Arthritis and Cancers. So holding a grudge may not only hurt your soul but also your body in the long run.
I challenge you today, to think of anyone who has hurt you in the past, for whom you bear a grudge and forgive the person. Set them free! Take a step further by calling such a person. It doesn’t matter if your heart was broken; you were betrayed, neglected or duped; whatever it is. Go ahead and do it. You are not just doing it for the person, you are doing for yourself. This experience will be refreshing for you.
Finally, the whole idea of Easter revolves around forgiveness and reconciliation. Easter Season marks the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ but is also a lesson in Forgiveness and Reconciliation, God’s attempt to reconcile men unto Him. God is ever willing to forgive and make up with us, despite the several times we fail him knowingly or unknowingly.
I wish you a beautiful Easter holidays. Have great fun and keep hope alive!
Egwim Ndubuisi is the founder of New Dimension International. He speaks to African Youth on Visionary Leadership and Creative Enterprise in several Seminars, Conferences and Workshops. Visit his website on http://www.NewDimensionLife.com