My dear Son, I did not know much about Tiwa Savage or Tee Billz before this weekend. However, suddenly I cannot avoid their stories everywhere even when I am out in a Jazz festival sipping my Pina colada quietly and nodding to good old music with my good friend, Mazi Chijioke Mosanya. However, I have this to say to you. Due to my traditional upbringing, I strongly believe that the man should do everything honest to PROVIDE for his family (Provide,Protect and Profess) and it is a thing of pride from where I come from, young men won’t get hitched until they are in a position to do all three at the level they desire. Now, hold on a moment, before you vigorously nod your head in agreement and quote that scripture that is quick to manifest in such discussions: Let’s clear it first – I Tim 5:8- “ANYONE (man or woman) who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” – emphasis mine. So the provision could come from both of them, that’s synergy. My views on the man being the primary provider still holds and is purely traditional to me as you know. Infact, it is strange to me, that these days, ladies insist on paying half the bills when you go out with them but don’t worry, your Papa is probably not up to date with what you folks do these days.
However, in the present socioeconomic circumstances in Nigeria and around the world, my views may not always be the case as I know couples where the lady earns much more than her man, even where the man is working very hard and smart. However, the man should never rest on his oars and be excited to spend more than he earns. It is an illusion to live a champagne life on a “zobo” budget or to be eating caviar when your paycheck can only buy ‘kpomo’. The man cannot afford to be a burden to the woman. The man should nurture his lady, spiritually, emotionally and physically, and not be a blood-sucking parasite depending on her for every need. Also, since she shares in the provision, would you consider helping out with some of the house chores? Having said that, I still believe couples who have understanding and wisdom can work out their “wahala” without all the social media drama. The day I wake up and see stories of you and your wife’s issues on social media, that day I shall know that I have failed in my duties in raising you to #BeAMan. #Protect #Provide #Profess #NewDimensionManhood #Letters2MyBoy